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My boss supervises me and another person. According to my boss,
this other person is "so great, does everything right and can read her mind!" I only get "Why haven't you done this? We really need to be
doing...," and get brushed aside.
I am told by others that I do a great job; however, my boss never communicates anything positive to me. She leaves me out of the loop on
things and doesn't allow me to have psychological ownership of any projects. She never has time to discuss anything with me, let alone time
for me to ask her any questions. She always has time for the other person however. She gives him many more opportunities to deal with the client,
and I get stuck with the crap work. She micromanages me; whereas, she gives him free reign.
She is taking him to a meeting tomorrow that I should be going to instead of him since I work directly with the information that the meeting is
about and he does not. I always do great work for her, and I don't understand why she is giving him preferential treatment. I am very hurt
and angry.
Signed,
Overlooked
Dear
Overlooked:
You don't say whether you have confronted your boss about being micro managed, cut out from attending a conference you should be attending, and being assigned the crap. I think a three-way meeting would benefit you, the coworker and the boss. Why? Because it appears that the pattern that has developed is far from working as a team. Rather you are working at odds or at least as individuals working on assignments. The benefits of cheering each other on appear absent either for you or by you. The benefits of each of you finding ways to better meet each other's needs and collaborating to satisfy and delight clients are missing.
Anger can motivate. In your case, it may take repeated assertiveness to break a pattern of favoritism that either intentionally or unintentionally appears evident. That means you must take the initiative to request a meeting on this topic and prepare what you feel should be on the agenda of such a session.
Getting to WEGO requires frequent two-way communication and sometimes confrontation.
--Bill Gorden
Workplace Doctors